There are two types of intimacy in relationships, and while they’re both about how we interact when we’re in close proximity to loved ones, the similarities stop there. These two types of closeness are (1) push-pull intimacy and (2) wholehearted intimacy. Let’s take a look at what they’re each like, so we can get a …
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These are seven different ways that sharing can go awry when you’re trying to connect with someone. Perhaps they blame, try to fix, freak out, or something else… instead of simply being with you in your human experience. These “empathy misses,” as Brené Brown calls them, get in the way of authentic connection. These words …
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Every book, movie, or show tells a story. But how do they tell it? Most stories appear to fit into a pattern called “The Hero’s Journey.” Frodo in Lord of the Rings, Moana in Moana and T’Challa in Black Pantha all cycle through common story plot points. Frodo begins in Hobbiton, is entrusted with the …
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Our world is highly attuned to validation. We seek affirmation and call it our love language. We want praise from our boss, acceptance from our partner and gratitude from our kids. We want to be seen as good or powerful or successful—every person has a different kink. It’s not that this way is wrong, but …
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There’s no source on exactly how many people have sexual challenges. And people probably underreport sexual difficulties because it can be painful to admit you’re having a tough time. Here’s some of the data we do have. In a 14,500 person survey conducted by Crucible® Institute based in Evergreen, Colorado the respondents reported that: More than 1 out …
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In his book The Big Leap, Gay Hendricks invented the phrase “Zone of Genius,” which refers to times when you are operating from your natural strengths and innate abilities. I want to explain how you can harness your “Zone of Genius” during sex to have the most satisfying sex of your life. First, let’s consider …
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There are only two types of intimacy in sex. They both involve two people in a committed relationship, but they work very differently. One produces the type of sex most people consider good, adequate, “okay”. And the other results in hot, base, intense moments of connection that are beautiful, erotic, pleasurable, memorable and make you …
“Reciprocity” Isn’t The Key To Sex: How Self-Mastery Can Help You Have Better Sex Read More »
Hint: It’s probably not who you think. There is always a lower desire partner and a higher desire partner in every relationship. These may not follow societal gender roles and may change throughout the relationship. For example, early in the relationship, the woman might be the higher desire partner for sex. She may want sex …
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